"Grief is individual and affects people in different ways"

About Grieving

The death of someone close can be the most devastating experience that we will ever have. Grief is individual and affects people in different ways. It may last a long time…weeks, months, even years, although it will become less raw and overwhelming. It affects us in every way – physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally. This is normal. We need to allow ourselves to grieve and to give ourselves time to work through our thoughts and feelings.

Some common grief reactions include:

  • Sadness
  • Crying or feeling numb and unable to cry
  • Anger
  • Guilt
  • Relief
  • Anxiety
  • Loneliness
  • Fatigue
  • Helplessness
  • Physical aches and pains
  • Difficulty concentrating for very long
  • A loss of self
  • Oversensitivity to noise
  • Disturbed sleep patterns
  • Changed eating and drinking patterns
  • Restlessness
  • Withdrawal
  • Helplessness
  • Increased resilience

Most people do not experience all of these. They may come in waves, and sometimes when we least expect them. There may well be many “ups and downs” along the way.

Nothing can replace the person who has died, but we can learn ways to help us to cope, and, with time, we can find renewed strength, purpose and hope for the future.

Grief can isolate people, especially when we do not want to burden our friends or family. It is usually best to try to maintain normal contact with people and to get out and about if possible.

Sometimes talking to someone who is not a family member or friend, but who will really listen and try to understand can be a great help.

Bereavement Support Team Contact Details

David Nash – Bereavement Support Lead

Dorothy Howlett – Adult Bereavement Support Team

Email: FNH.Bereavement@buckshealthcare.nhs.uk

Child Bereavement Support

Click here to find out more about our Child Bereavement Support services.

Useful resources

For Child Bereavement UK click here

For Cruse click here

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